Do you think that you could have ended up being around better quality people if you would have moved around more? I recall your story about moving back to your hometown for family reasons.
Definitely but let me be specific:
Grew up in Ohio, got EE degree commuting from home.
First job in Silicon Valley, August 1980.
Homesick a lot.
Next job in PA, drivable distance to home, started Jan. 1982
Fucked up, basically. Long story. My fault.
Next job in NJ, started Aug. 1983, I had specialized tech skills (IC design, CAD system coding) which limited going back to OH which I didn't want to do.
Did OK work, hated the job, hated my boss, the local area (South Jersey) was basically like suburban Ohio. People were mostly OK and more intelligent than here.
Next job, Fort Wayne, started Sept. 1984.
DoD work. More like board design level work, coding assembler and C for military stuff.
Liked the work, didn't mesh too well with locals but there were a few decent people.
Also my mother was talking suicidal and I think since this had been going on for several years it became a brainworm to move back here for me.
Next job, a contracting place based in Cincinnati, Started Jan. 1988. They placed me at IBM in Boca Raton "temporarily" with the "promise" that there was a position back here when 18 months or so were up.
Contract ended March 1989.
Job ended May 1989.
I was able to somewhat mitigate my mom's depression but she passed of lung cancer in 1995.
Here's the thing. I've lived in a lot of places around the country. This area has the dumbest, shallowest residents who are basically antisocial. When I was a teen I never really had anyone to talk to who wasn't stupid (even college track honor students.)
This is the same region that JD Vance came from. In fact I live 8 miles away from where his first rally was yesterday.
I know you skim the surface of a lot of shit and lack some specifics, but dig into JD's background if you want to know what this region is like. (edit, I saw that you did pay attention to trailers for his movie and that gives the basic idea).
Ignore the hate and and ignore comments that Vance is a fraud. His life experience is a bit like mine.
Vance is like 40 now. I was 37 when my mom passed. Just circling around in jobs had exhausted me, and the local scene was downright hostile to my skill stack and personality. I should have left IT and gotten a new degree in something like law back in the 90s but I had a lot of drain of energy from my family.
Same as Vance did but he overcame it. I know of many similar stories to mine where someone just winds up in menial jobs because family fucks with them so badly that they never get momentum.
We have two seniors who don't have that much time left and I'm going to lobby my wife that we move to another area when they are both gone. But I'll be so fucking old by then that a move may not make sense.